The more I think about this
The more I believe that self sabotage is not actually a thing –
Hear me out…
Because we don’t just “do something” for no reason.
we do it because it’s
B ) it makes us feel good
So why wouldn’t we do it?
Eating takeaway – convenient and tasty
Picking at biscuits – tastes good / takes us away from stress / boredom (albeit briefly)
Convincing ourselves that we can’t fit exercise in today…and that tomorrow will be easier..
^^^ all these things make us feel better (albeit short term…I would even argue that they are more exhausting than actually doing the thing we know we need to do)
What can you do instead?
create a pattern interrupt aka something to do instead that is also:
B ) something that makes us feel good
This has to be YOUR pattern interrupt.
Examples include: dancing, singing, sewing, a bath, reading, exercise (especially good if you feel “anger” or “anxiety”)
But the key part to this?
Something to pull you in the direction of understanding why you want to do it right now..(or not do it?
And to do this?
Grab a pen and paper
And write down the costs of doing it..
Some of the ladies inside our programme
have actually said to me that when they WRITE IT DOWN they feel stupid that they ever did it 🤔
and still – occasionally – do it
But they key part?
And the fact that when you know the facts? The consequences?
Will you make a different decision.
And I get that you may think you can’t do it
Maybe you think you lack self belief
Or maybe you just feel you have to have certainty..
Certainty that it will work
That you can it all.
And with this?
We often put it all off.
And stay the same.
And that’s the only thing guaranteed.
If nothing changes, nothing changes.
Need some help?
Reply with the subject line “August”
And I’ll get you the details on our Flexi Shift 5 Week programme
Specifically for ladies 40+ who struggle to do the things they know they need to do
Matt “self sabotage?” Fruci
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so if you’re ready?
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