Ever tried to tell a toddler they can’t play with [insert toy] now but maybe tomorrow?
They don’t understand what “later” or “tomorrow” means.
They just want it. NOW.
Why do you think that is?
their Pre-Frontal Cortex (which allows them to think more long term) doesn’t develop until they are about 5-7yrs old.
At which point you can reason with them more like you would with an adult.
Why am I sharing this ?
Well…it turns out scientists have figured out that STRESS and TIREDNESS in and of itself literally TURNS OFF your pre-frontal cortex.
And who doesn’t have a poor nights sleep?
Work, stress, worry, anxiety
Think about that for a second.
This means the more stressed and more tired you are the more impulsive you’ll behave therefore making it HARDER to stay on track with your long term goals (like exercising, getting fit, eating better and toning up).
This might sound like a no-win situation but it’s actually good news because the REAL problem is not always a lack of willpower,
it’s that you’re probably more tired and stressed than you realise.
Moved house recently?
Have a stressful job?
Work long hours?
Don’t sleep like a baby at night?
Need multiple coffee’s to get going in the morning?
All of these and more a literally just symptoms of the real reason why you over eat/make poor food choices when you know you shouldn’t.
If it wasn’t clear enough yet.. ..
the real reason you eat emotionally, over indulge or make poor choices / put off exercise is because you’re tired, stressed or both. You may not even realise it.
So what can you do?
1-Stop practicing what you don’t want to become →
What you do today, you are moe likely to do tomorrow.
So if you call today DAY 1…
Imagine you have achieved your goal – with your health, your fitness and weight..
And ask the question:
What would they do today?
Then do that today.
Just live that for today.
2. Make the ‘right’ choice today when it comes to TINY decisions
Are you going to hit snooze or get up a do a 10 minute workout?
Are you going to have a glass of water before you meal or not?
Are you going to go for a walk or scroll your phone before going for a walk (which usually means you don’t go as get sucked in my news or emails and don’t end up going << unless you are reading this email, this might make you go :))
3. Prioritise rest and recovery
E.g Meditation (which is literally sitting and doing nothing) reverses ALL of that. In 2017 a team of researchers looked at all the research on diets, exercise and meditation in relation to weight loss and what they found was startling.
They noticed a trend that diets + exercise alone led to short term weight loss but in the long term, people tended to gain back the weight.
Whereas programs that included a diet + exercise + meditation not only led to short term weight loss but people also kept the weight off long term.
Meditation can be as simple as deep breathing. Having a coffee on your own.
Or even waking up and taking 10 deep breaths in before starting your day.
Taking time for YOU
As without you?
4. Get your priorities done in the MORNING (if you are struggling to do them)
Exercise can be the domino in the equation of ‘feeling good’
We feel better
Gain confidence that we can do this..
Prove others wrong
Clothes feel a bit looser
Arms start feeling more toned..
Less breathless climbing stairs
More stamina to handle life…
But if you don’t get to experience the above and say ‘I will do it later’…
And I get it
Home life, work, the world
Get in the way
And it doesn’t get done.
5. Practice delaying instant gratification
Next time you go to the fridge…
Just notice how you feel.
What feeling are you experiencing?
How do you want to feel?
What you could do to create that feeling?
That’s it from me 🙂
I spoke about this more in this video here: