So today is the day
That Boris is set to make an announcement
About what’s happening with the restrictions
Hairdressers (I’m in desperate need)
Pubs
Restaurants
Cafes
Gyms And private studios like ourselves
All hoping for the best..
Not to mention
Summer holidays 🌞
It’s been an interesting time…
They’re even debated in parliament
Whether fitness and health facilities should be “essential” given the impact on physical, mental and metabolic health
And the the higher risk factors associated with poor health and Covid.
But it got me thinking….
You see, the kids (2 and 4 years old)
Will use the language “I can’t” quite a lot…
I get it.
It’s frustrating being a toddler where you want to put your trousers on
But can get your foot in…YET
You want to scooter really fast up a hill, but you can’t do it…YET
You want to drive the car but you can’t…YET 😆
I could go on…
And what I keep doing is add..
“yet” to the end of the “I can’t” …
Ask them:
“what do you say if you can’t do it?”
To which I encourage
“can you help me please?”
And for me, this is huge..
Because they can either practice getting frustrated about not being able to do something and learn how to behave when things don’t go their way
Or
Remember they can’t do it YET
And
That they can ask for help to ensure they CAN learn or still do it…
But why is it
We accept that
Babies will walk at their own pace
Kids will be good at different things at school
Learn at different rates…
But then when it comes to weight loss, we have this specific number like:
“If I haven’t lost 1 stone by next month then…”
^^^ Which we have ZERO control over because you cannot control exactly what the scale does
That if we don’t hit, we might as well give up altogether?
May as well have not even started?
Can you imagine If I just said to my daughter who was a late crawler:
“You know what, you should have been walking by now, so just don’t bother at all. You can crawl for the rest of your life”?
Because here’s the thing:
By setting goals like this, which are PURELY specific and NOT focussed on the process? you are essentially powerLESS…
You have basically given up ‘control’ of the situation <<< which us humans love / hate because it gives us this excuse / a story about how we tried and still failed (which makes us feel better now but $#*! tomorrow)..
My advice to you:
1* set a specific goal (like a weight loss goal / dress size goal) << this is absolutely fine. BUT, don’t attach life and death feelings to it. If you didn’t quite hit your goal? You STILL have an outcome. You know what worked, right? You know maybe what you can improve, right?
2* Focus on the things you CAN control. In our Kickstart we set 3 simple habits in the areas Food, Fitness, and Focus / self care .
^^^ 3 things that if you control? Will help you lose fat, have more energy, get fit and make 2021 a healthier
My points here?
Control what you can today..
There’s things you might not be able to do…YET.
But there lots of things you can do…
(See the picture of this post)
And my second point?
If you want to achieve something, you can do it.
If you want to get fit, you can do it.
If you want to get healthy, you ca do it
Ask for help if you’re struggling to do it..
Whether that’s a friend, family member or someone like us (coach, personal training or nutritionist)
As the only other option
Is to carry on doing what you are doing…
And if you’re happy with that?
Great.
If not,
What’s going to happen 5 years from now if nothing changes?
Matt
Ps. Send over a message if want more information about our March Kickstart programme for ladies 40+
