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Coffee, Gossip and Your BS Stories

So I gave up coffee for about a month before Fruci baby No.2 (Imogen) was born (2 weeks ago today). 


In short, never will I give it up completely AGAIN.

Why?

I enjoy it, it’s full of antioxidants, it’s part of my morning routine to create space and drink a coffee in peace (before babies are up and the day is GO GO GO), and I FEEL better when I have it.

But what I want to talk to you about today is why you should be careful WHO you drink your coffee with.

You see, have you ever been out for a coffee with a friend and they gossip about someone.

‘oh, you know Jane, you’ll never guess what she did ….”

And all of a sudden, it makes you create a story in your mind about Jane. Perhaps you pre-judge Jane before you even meet her. Perhaps you now don’t put in the effort and give Jane the time you would’ve simply because of this story that has now been created in your mind .

I don’t mean to judge. But it is hard, right? When someone says something negative about someone, it’s almost human nature to think ‘oh no, why would they do that’ and then have this picture about them

Why am I saying this to you?

Well, every decision you make every day is based on a story.

A  story that you tell yourself.

Based on a thought that you believe so much it defines YOU:

“I have no willpower”

“It’s OK for you as you have more time”

“I’m too unfit”

“I’m too old”

“Life is too short…..”

^^^ if life is too short, what are you doing with your life to make the most of it and be the change you want to see with your family / friends?

And here’s probably the most interesting part:

IF you base you future decisions on the stories that you have  told yourself in the past?

You’ll get the EXACT same results that you have now…

How can you do the same thing and expect different results?

It’s like me with my ‘stories’ I used to tell myself about how everyone was smarter than me, I’m too young to be a guest lecturer at Universities (which I’m doing this month at Oxford Brookes), educate patients with Type 2 diabetes alongside GPs, Dietitians, and Diabetes Specialist Nurses, and TOO young to help ladies ditch the ‘all or nothing’ way of thinking about this dieting stuff.

Which begs the question:

If you’ve always thought that the only way to lose weight is to count points, calories, syns, or cut carbs?

But you’re not where you want to be…

Who is the common denominator in this?

You see, the systems WORK…but if your habits are not in place, it’s not going to work..

So, what beliefs and stories do you need to forget?

It’s not a case of “I can’t”…

But rather who do you need to be to get the results you want with your body, fitness, and health?

Matt

PS. Whenever you’re ready…
 
here are 2 ways I can help you get in shape, build a healthy relationship with food, and ditch the ‘F it’ mindset:
 
1- Read my free book where I walk you through exactly what I did and help I’ve helped other ladies transform they way they think about weight loss and building a positive relationship with food (the 6 principles):
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2- Join our “Fit For Life Body Transformation” coaching program for ladies 40+
 
Every month I open up the opportunity to work with us inside of our ladies only fat loss coaching programme
 
If you’d like to be coached and supported by me?…