Congratulations. You are invited to Matt’s birthday party. Everyone will get presents even though it’s not their birthday…. And you will all get a prize during pass the parcel 😉
Ok, so today is my birthday. But what I wanted to share with you today is something that got quite a bit of attention a few years back in the media with all the debate about whether kids should keep score and league tables in sport at schools
And you might not like this,
but here’s what this American footballer, James Harrison, that kind of kicked things off with this
As he said:
“I came home to find out that my boys received two trophies for nothing, participation trophies!
While I am very proud of my boys for everything they do and will encourage them till the day I die, these trophies will be given back until they EARN a real trophy.
I’m sorry I’m not sorry for believing that everything in life should be earned
and I’m not about to raise two boys by making them believe that they are entitled to something just because they tried their best…
because sometimes your best is not enough, and that should drive you to want to do better…not cry and whine until somebody gives you something to shut you up and keep you happy”
I have to admit…
I do agree with a lot of this.
I’m passionate about family life and seeing everyone around me be happy
^^^ hence why I’m always talking about NOT letting crazy diets stop you eating your favourite foods and enjoying meals out with friends and family (as I once did)
But sometimes, I wonder if trophies like this are priming us to miss the value of DOING THE WORK.
In fact, the moment in my life when I have learned the most
Could probably be perceived as also some of the most negative moments in my life…
✅ Mum passing away
✅ Going bright red in the face, not being able to speak and being super nervous with ANY public speaking
✅ Arguing to try and be right and change other people’s minds when actually they don’t have to agree with you and you might not always be right..
I could go on..
And it is a really fine line.
Which I have no idea how or if I will get it right
Especially when bringing up kids…
But what I do know
Is that resilience and support
Are two things that underpin a lot of what we can achieve and do.
After all, giving up on ourselves
Rarely – if ever – makes us happy.
So what is the alternative?
What do you think?
Matt ‘Birthday boy’ Fruci