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Who else benefits?

It never stops amazing me how we can do things like:

Work long hours

Do some exercise

Bring up kids (let alone give birth..)

Look after family

Make sure everyone is OK.

But then go and say:

“I am lazy” 

And I get it. I do it, too. 

I could be beating myself up for not being bothered to exercise (as I was last night)…

Forgetting that I have worked a long day…

Spent nice time with kids

Had a steak night ☺ 

Was up at 5am…

And am actually making progress with my exercise overall.

^^^ Another reason that when you think something is a ‘negative’, is to ask the question: What is positive about this situation?

So it begs the question sometimes:

1-am I lazy when I want to be?

2-does our definition of’ lazy’ /expectations of ourselves keep changing because we are constantly looking at how far up the mountain we want to get rather than look back at the beautiful view of how far we have come AKA the progress we have made? 

^^^^ Yes, I am guilty of this and something I keep trying to talk about with my 3 year old when she gets frustrated…reminding her that she couldn’t do it all once upon a time…

After all progress is often more motivating than anything else..

So then it begs the question:

How are you measuring progress?

If your progress is measured simply by something you CANNOT control (like the scales)

Are you setting yourself up for failure?

Especially when you could consider that:

If you make progress over time doing the things you probably know you need to do, then you will probably get the results you want??

(something we talk about in our free 5-day kickstart by the way, more info here:

Anyway, yesterday I was having a chat with one of the ladies inside our 28 Day Kickstart programme..

About how she would self-sabotage because she would ‘feel like I deserved it’ …

So here’s what I want you to consider:

1.    Food manufacturers spend A LOT making certain foods feel like ‘treats’ / pleasures. You only have to look at Christmas and Coca Cola & McDonalds and Happy Meals…

2.    Sometimes we feel like we deserve it because we have restricted it for so long….(that is human nature) and the reality is, a chocolate bar or some crisps are NOT going to be the issue, but rather your thoughts about them and the actions that follow (AKA the F it mindset) 

3.    What are the benefits of NOT self sabotaging? To you, your body, your health, your mindset? Feeling of achievement? happiness? 

4.    Who else benefits if you don’t self-sabotage? Family? Friends? And how do they benefit?

5.    Don’t they deserve the best version of you?

And I will leave you with this:

Change is hard..

But at the same time it CAN be life changing…

as Albert Einstein apparently said:

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

Because when you think about things like this and remember that the chance of you being born and here today are something like 400 TRILLION TO ONE…

It makes you think:

Are we here just to ‘get through it’ or are we here to make a difference and enjoy it?

Something I sometimes ask myself is:

If I was looking into the future as my 10 year old self, would how I am today be inspiring for the 10 year old me?

Matt ’10 year old me’ Fruci

PS. I’m putting on a free 5-day kickstart for a small group of local ladies that want to drop a few lbs, get into a positive frame of mind and kickstart their motivation & healthy habits. 

We start on Monday (and we already 23 ladies in on this yesterday..WOW super excited)

If you’d like to join  us, go here: