I actually used to find myself ‘judging’ others when I saw babies crying and messing around..
Little did I know that babies can be amazing one minute and a different baby the next…
even if you do EVERYTHING right…
Eat, Sleep, Poop, Change…REPEAT…
Yet, you still can’t quite work out why they are crying at that moment. It must be human nature to want to KNOW 100% everything haha
Which is exhausting…
..but you might only see the 15% when they just have one of those moments where they’re tantruming, screaming, crying, shouting …
And -still – I sometimes have this thing about worrying what others might be thinking about me (especially as I walk around Waitrose with a crying baby haha)
But I guess like all things, you just have to work on your ‘don’t get care what others think’ muscle…
After all, if you can’t control it? Why worry about it?
And that’s the exact strategy which has been shown to help you lose 30% more unwanted body fat…
That is, asking yourself where you spend MOST of your energy:
Is it:
1) On things like traffic, the weather, what other people say or thinking about you, Brexit, politics, the news?
^^ This is essentially stuff you have NO control over…
2) On things like the weighing scales, your waist measurement, how fit you are, your cholesterol, blood sugar levels, metabolism?
^^^ these things you can INFLUENCE, but you cannot 100% control them…
3) On things like your beliefs, what you eat, your exercise habits, how you RESPOND to what people think or say about you…
^^^ These things are 100% in your control…
So imagine if you spent more energy on number 3?
How would your mental and physical health be different?
Because when you focus on the PROCESS AKA the things you can control…the results take care of themselves…
You see, it MATTERS what goes in-between your ears (your brain…)
So if you have these inherent beliefs that things are supposed to be a ‘certain way’…’I’m rubbish’…’I’m s#iT’
AKA
LIMITING beliefs..
^^^ Which are simply thoughts that YOU have believed for so long that you think they’re true…
Pay attention to what you are reading.
Pay attention to what you are listening to. Watching. Reading..
Because it MATTERs…
So much that it could be dictating what you do and how you feel.
And something that I consider is that everything that comes out of my mouth…
My daughter (s) are hearing…
So I am essentially forming their mindset…
And just THIS alone…
Means I’m paying attention to what goes in my ears, what I watch and read…
And being very aware of what I say and why…
(as this dictates not just what I think I’m capable of but also the message that I share…with my family and daughters…as well as what I actually DO)
And it reiterates just how important it IS to track and focus on THE PROCESS…
Which inside of our Fit For Life Body Transformation Programme for Ladies 40+, is just these 3 Fs…
1) Food – did you eat moderately less than you need AKA calorie deficit whilst hitting health and nutrient needs to thrive and be full of energy? 1 point for yes, 0 for no
2) Fitness – did you do a home workout? 10000 steps? 100 squats? 1 point for yes, 0 for no
3) Focus – did you take some time out for you? Meditate? Try one of these apps to help: Headspace app? Calm app? Insight Timer app? 1 point for yes, 0 for no
Anyway, you may have noticed in the “PS” of my emails that I’ve been offering free, private 1-1 coaching calls for this week.
These calls – at the very least – will give you clarity on what you need to do to get out of your own way by having a plan of what and when you need to do to get the results you want.
Matt