Struggle to celebrate the ‘wins’ as ‘there is still so much to do’ and ‘such a long way to go” ?
I get it.
When we talk about this at Fruci Fit,, it’s easy to assume that I find this easy..
But some days
I too struggle to find ‘wins’..
But like anything..
the more you do it?
The more you LOOK for the wins, the easier they are to find.
Energy flows where your attention goes.
So if you keep focussing on the setbacks.
keep saying “I can’t find any wins”
Guess what?
Your brain will look for setbacks and won’t bother looking for wins.
Why?
Because it means you are ‘right’.
“I said I can’t find wins and I can’t”
and you get a little short dopamine hit from that.
It’s probably quite addictive, after all we all like being right (even me).
I could be wrong here
but when you look back at transformational moments.
achievements in your life
or even setbacks.
There are often a string of events, positive or negative that contributed..
The training sessions you do when you don’t feel like it..
The walk in the rain when you can’t really be bothered (me last week with the kids but felt so much better after and they loved it too)
the phone call you made..
the person you bumped into when nipping to the shop..
the job you applied for even though the closing date was 2 weeks ago and you didn’t meet the criteria…
Stopping at 3 biscuits instead of 10..
having a glass of water before your hot drinks today..
Going to bed 20 minutes earlier rather than scrolling and getting up with more energy..
stopping at 2 drinks rather than finishing the bottle.
These are all wins..
and the more you look at them as wins?
The better you will feel.
the more confidence you will have.
After all, we grow up as babies / kids seeking validation for our behaviour
be it ‘passing exams’
avoiding ‘red cards’ or the chokey (as they call it in Matilda)..
but it is only when older that we need to take responsibility
and look for them ourselves
or our innate wiring will probably takeover
and our energy will spent on things that are not ‘right’ in our eyes..
Here are some of the wins just from this past week (see image)
And a nice reminder that you don’t have to do it all
To make progress
Just like we focus on in our Summer Kickstart
Matt “small habits, compound effect” Fruci