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Lessons from my mum

I don’t want any ‘awwwwwwsss”’ or ‘oooooohhhhhhssss’ from this

But only for the last few years have I really had to remember Mother’s Day in a while

my mum passed away back in 2002 when I was 12

But today?

I’ve got an amazing wife who’s an amazing mum to my beautiful daughters

^^^ I’ve also got an amazing nan and mother-in-law 

But my point today is this:

I truly believe that if you look closely enough and give it enough time

You can see a ‘positive’ in everything

And before you say what’s the positive in being made redundant or loved ones passing away..

I just want to say that I used to think that, too

Until I realised that nothing is bad unless you think it’s bad

You see, although my mum passing away when I was 12 seems all doom and gloom

And – don’t get me wrong – I was and still am – devastated

But it actually made me a more grateful person

And I probably wouldn’t be who I am today if it wouldn’t have happened 🤔

I realised just how hard my dad was working to provide for the family (as I grew older)

It made me ‘grow up’ and help out with things like cooking and cleaning

^^^ I’ll never forget getting the pasta and meatballs ready for 5pm 😂 

You see, when you give so-called ‘bad things’ time to ‘digest’

It’s never as bad as you made it out to be.

With every bad, is an opportunity…

Now, I’m not going to pretend it’s easy

Because it’s clearly not

But when you just nurse, rehearse and curse a ‘bad’ situation

Are you just wasting energy on something you can’t change?

Energy that could go into YOU, your kids, family and loved ones?

So, next time you put on a pound when you look down at the scales….

Wait 3 days or so

It’ll probably be back off…

Or

Evaluate what happened over the last week…

Did you do your exercise?

Stick to your nutrition plan?

Learn, adapt, grow and harvest the good

See it as a reminder of what you need to do

And after 3 days of evaluation…

then – and only then – give yourself permission to nurse and curse yourself 

Happy Mother’s Day 

Matt 

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