“I want to feel more confident” (2 things to do)

So this week

I’ve lectured at Oxford Brookes University to Postgraduate nutrition students on nutrition and how to get people to do the things they know they need to do…

I’ve had 6 one to one coaching sessions with ladies on our programmes

and delivered ​​9 group sessions for ladies over 40 in Marlborough…

Now, the reason i’m sharing this is because even 3 years ago

the thought of this would be make so scared…

I’d be downing rescue remedies

and going dry in the mouth…

But now?

It excites me!

In fact, I love it so much

and have had such success in Marlborough

That I’ve got a brand new programme launching in Burbage in April

​​(reply if you want some more info on that..we only have 12 spaces)

So what’s changed?

Why – all of a sudden – can I now speak in front of people?

Without going red, dry in the mouth?

Well, 2 things have changed

(as I explain in this video below which I would not have dreamed of recording a few years back as I’d be too nervous)​​

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but in short:​​

1) I know longer compare myself my best day

2) I understand that my confidence and self esteem is MY subjective ​​​​​​​​​​​​opinion of my own self worth…so it is up to me how I set the benchmark here.

​​I can compare myself to others on social media (who just share their best days)

Judge myself on how I look…(which isn’t actually as important to me as being a great dad and husband, helping someone improve their life and mindset, create freedom from diets)

Base how I should act in certain situations on what I think others expect (which I’m not sure is even true…)

My point is that you get what you focus on…

and unfortunately, if your ‘confidence’ or self esteem’ is based on ​​​​beliefs that you don’t even know are true?

This might stop you doing the things you want to do to look and feel better…

and given that confidence comes from DOING…

so you gather proof and evidence that you can do something…

could you start by questioning your subjective opinion on your own self worth and where it comes from?

Matt



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