I was a kid at Tae Kwon Do. I
did pretty well in the end. Getting a black belt and even being asked to teach.
Although I rarely did any teaching as I couldn’t get my words out. I was too nervous.
Worried about what others were thinking. Didn’t like other looking at / or judging me.
Would go bright red in the face…
Anyway, we used to have this mantra:
“DREAM IT. BELIEVE IT. ACHIEVE IT…”
And – of course – being only 12 at the time, I had no clue what this meant anyway.
But what I’ve found to be true NOW after coaching hundreds of ladies
is that there’s a BIG step between ‘believe’ and ‘achieve’…
That step being…
ACTION. AKA Doing!
Because here’s the thing:
Everyone has self-belief.
Everyone has confidence.
Whether they exercise every day, once a week or haven’t exercises in years.
Whether they define themselves as the ‘fat one’ in their friendship group
or whether they’re the sporty one doing all the classes at the gym.
Everyone has confidence.
The THOUGHTS in your head you CHOOSE to believe..
Which will – eventually – determine what you do
^^^ whether you eat the rest of the biscuits and put off doing what you said you would do to look and feel how you’d like…OR make a commitment to consistently just getting better and winning each day…
But before an action…is a feeling.
Which is a thought that you’ve put some meaning to.
This could be courage. Confidence. OR a lack of confidence.
I hear things like:
‘I have no willpower’. “I have no motivation’…
So, what if I told you that it’s not a lack of confidence? It’s not a lack of willpower?
But actually the thoughts you CHOOSE to believe?
Can I challenge you just for today to slow down and challenge your thoughts? Notice what you are CHOOSING to believe?
And – if you’re really ready for a challenge – I challenge you to take action WITHOUT having self-belief or confidence that you can do it?
Literally, what would you say to your kids / grandkids / other half
Who was struggling to find the confidence to do something they really wanted to do?
Well, that is the exact advice you need to hear and remind yourself of every, single day.
I would not be where I am today If I hadn’t got over my fear of public speaking…
You should have seen me presenting my research when doing my postgraduate at Loughborough University..
Shaking, red in the face…
Wanted the world to swallow me up…
All because I chose to believe I was not smart enough..
People new more than me…
Until, one of the professors literally said it straight to me..
‘what do you want to do?’
And it was at this time that I realised
That if I was to ever help people
And make a difference
I had to learn to communicate …
And -essentially – get over myself…
And not let the fear of judgement / people disagreeing with what I say
Get in the way of me helping people..
After all, no one knows the future, so who knows what you might achieve if you CHOOSE to notice the thoughts that are NOT yours
and realise that you have a choice in what you believe, how you respond and what you do?
Who know what you can achieve..
Just like Sue mentioned the other week…
As she complete her FIRST EVER park run!!
You can check Sue’s results out here:
Matt ‘done > perfect’ Fruci