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You’re invited to Matt’s birthday party…

You’re invited to Matt’s birthday party

Congratulations. You are invited to Matt’s birthday party. 

Everyone will get presents 

And you will all get a prize during pass the parcel 

Ok, so today is my birthday. 

But what I wanted to share with you today is something that got a lot of attention in the media with all the debate about whether kids should keep score and league tables in sport at schools

And you might not like this, but here’s what this American footballer, James Harrison, said:

“I came home to find out that my boys received two trophies for nothing, participation trophies! 

While I am very proud of my boys for everything they do and will encourage them till the day I die, these trophies will be given back until they EARN a real trophy.

I’m sorry I’m not sorry for believing that everything in life should be earned 

and I’m not about to raise two boys to be men by making them believe that they are entitled to something just because they tried their best…

because sometimes your best is not enough, and that should drive you to want to do better…not whine until somebody gives you something to and keep you happy”

I have to admit…

I do agree. 

I’m passionate about family life and seeing everyone around you be happy

^^^ hence why I’m always talking about NOT letting crazy diets stop you eating your favourite foods and enjoying meals out with friends and family (as I once did)

But sometimes, I wonder if trophies like this are priming us to miss the value of DOING THE WORK.

Don’t you think?

It reminds me of all these crash diets

We start the diet super motivated thinking that it’s going be all glitter and that when we drop a few pounds doing whatever it takes that we’ll be happy

Only to then get a harsh dose of reality when 

We have that ‘hard’ week

We lack that motivation 

Even though we know what to do 

We still don’t do it..

And this is frustrating..

But like James Harrison says:

You should be proud of everything you do

But it doesn’t mean it is enough to get the outcome you are looking for.

My favourite part?

The things you learn from DOING 

Will give you the tools to make sure that these habits are there for good 🙂

And although you might think having ‘good habits’ means never messing up?

What if it actually meant that no matter how ‘rubbish’ you felt your day was?

You could just make it day one today…

Matt ‘Happy birthday’ Fruci