Congratulations. You are invited to Matt’s birthday party.
Everyone will get presents
Win lose or draw 🤔
Ok, so today is my birthday.
But what I wanted to share with you today is something that comes on my timeline a lot
It got a lot of attention in the media over the last few years
with all the debate about whether kids should keep score and league tables in sport at schools
And you might not like this, but here’s what this American footballer, James Harrison, said:
“I came home to find out that my boys received two trophies for nothing, participation trophies!
While I am very proud of my boys for everything they do and will encourage them till the day I die, these trophies will be given back until they EARN a real trophy.
I’m sorry I’m not sorry for believing that everything in life should be earned
and I’m not about to raise two boys to be men by making them believe that they are entitled to something just because they tried their best…
because sometimes your best is not enough, and that should drive you to want to do better…not whine until somebody gives you something to and keep you happy”
I have to admit…
I do agree.
I’m passionate about family life and seeing everyone around you be happy
^^^ hence why I’m always talking about NOT letting crazy diets stop you eating your favourite foods and enjoying meals out with friends and family (as I once did)
But sometimes, I wonder if trophies like this are priming us to miss the value of DOING THE WORK.
The breakthroughs you get from doing things
That sometimes you don’t want to do
Or that scares you..
Being able to keep going even things don’t seem to be going right …
It reminds me of all these diets out there..
We start the diet super motivated thinking that it’s going be all glitter and that when we drop a few pounds doing whatever it takes that we’ll be happy
Only to then get a harsh dose of reality when
We have that ‘hard’ week
We lack that motivation
Even though we know what to do
We still don’t do it..
And this is frustrating..
But like James Harrison says:
You should be proud of everything you do
But it doesn’t mean it is enough to get the outcome you are looking for.
My favourite part?
The things you learn from DOING
Will give you the tools to make sure that these habits are there for good 🙂
And although you might think having ‘good habits’ means never messing up?
What if it actually meant that no matter how ‘rubbish’ you felt your day was?
You could just make it day one today…
Matt ‘Happy birthday’ Fruci