So I gave up coffee for about a month before Fruci baby No.2 (Imogen) was born
In short, never will I give it up completely AGAIN.
I enjoy it, it’s full of antioxidants, it’s part of my morning routine to create space and drink a coffee in peace (before kids are up and the day is GO GO GO), and I FEEL better when I have it.
I also – just by chance –
Ended up having a coffee free 2 days…
We were camping in a tent…
Bit of a last minute thing
And didn’t get a chance to have one.
Wow did I miss it..
But what I want to talk to you about today is why you should be careful WHO you drink your coffee with.
You see, have you ever been out for a coffee with a friend and they gossip about someone?
‘oh, you know Matt, you’ll never guess what he dresses up as for workouts….”
And all of a sudden, it makes you create a story in your mind about Matt.
Perhaps you pre-judge Matt before you even meet him. Perhaps you now don’t give Matt the time or put in the effort because of this story that has now been created in your mind .
I don’t mean to judge
But it is hard, right?
When someone says something negative about someone, it’s almost human nature to think ‘oh no, why would they do that’ and then have this picture about them.
It’s like all the media when they target a celebrity etc.
(Be kind comes to mind)
Why am I saying this to you?
Well, every decision you make every day is based on a story…
A story that you tell yourself.
Based on a thought that you believe so much it defines YOU:
“I have no willpower”
“It’s OK for you as you have more time”
“I’m too unfit”
“I’m too old”
“Life is too short…..”
^^^ if life is too short, what are you doing with your life to make the most of it and be the change you want to see with your family / friends?
And here’s probably the most interesting part:
IF you based your future decisions on the stories that you have told yourself in the past?
You’ll get the EXACT same results that you have now…
How can you do the same thing and expect different results?
It’s like not changing what goes in, and expecting different results out with your energy and confidence.
^^^ partly down to forcing yourself to do stuff you hate in the hope that maybe you create a life you love (there’s a case for this at times, but you can’t create long term happiness doing stuff you hate all of the time)
It’s like me with my ‘stories’ I used to tell myself about how everyone was smarter than me, I’m too young to be a guest lecturer at Universities (my thoughts before lecturing at Oxford Brookes), educate patients with Type 2 diabetes alongside GPs, Dietitians, and Diabetes Specialist Nurses,
and TOO young to help ladies ditch the ‘all or nothing’ way of thinking about this dieting stuff.
Which begs the question:
If you’ve always thought that the only way to lose weight is to count points, calories, syns, or cut carbs?
But you’re not where you want to be…
Who is the common denominator in this?
You see, the systems WORK…but if your habits are not in place, it’s not going to work..
So, what beliefs and stories do you need to forget?
It’s not a case of “I can’t”…
But rather who do you need to be to get the results you want with your body, fitness, and health?
And if you know what to do but still aren’t doing it?
That’s where we might be able to help with our brand new July Transformation programme.
Let me know if you’re free for a chat over the next few days by replying with “chat”