How to overcome fear…
“That was 120 years ago…
all of those people had fears..
had dreams..
some achieved them …
some didn’t..
either way, we all die in the end”
I saw a picture today of a street in Swindon in 1902
^^^ I was in the restroom at a restaurant in Swindon- is that too much information?
and that is exactly what went through my head.
I mean, given that we are not sure what tomorrow brings, let alone next year,
why is it that we let fear hold us back so much?
And I am not immune to this, it took me years to overcome my issues with public speaking.
Thing is though, it is really easy to blame ‘fear’.
But what if it was actually that you were:
–> Overwhelmed?
–> Scared of the outcome? Scared of failing and scared of succeeding?
–> Feeling uninspired? Worried what others might say if I do it?
–> Unfulfilled? You know you can do more in life, give more, achieve more, but have not quite done it?
–> Seeking permission from everyone around you? That we don’t feel comfortable achieving our own dreams unless everyone around you agrees with you?
What if you were actually avoiding DISCOMFORT?
^^^ even though avoiding perceived discomfort can actually bring discomfort?
So this brings me to 3 kinds of fear DISCOMFORT:
1–> The pain of loss- Will I disappoint my friends / family? Will I lose respect of others? Will I waste time? Money?
^^ forgetting that whatever you do, even if you do not get the desired outcome, youalways get the outcome of GROWTH and LEARNING
2–> Pain of process – It is too much time, you haven’t got the energy, you don’t think you are good enough?
^^ forgetting what message this is putting out to others. I don’t feel comfortable telling my kids they can do anything they want….whilst moping around, complaining about my life…
3–> Pain of outcome – is it even worth it? Will I be able to handle it when I get there? If I lose the weight and get fit, is it all worth it?
So here is a task for you today:
Rather than WHAT IF…
Swap for EVEN IF
EVEN IF I am not motivated I will do it anyway
EVEN IF I am nervous, I will do it anyway
EVEN IF I cannot be bothered I will show up.
EVEN IF it gets hard, I will still do it
Then you cannot loss
As you always LEARN
And never have the regrets of
“What if”
Matt
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