Lessons from Adele
I saw this from Adele last week in an interview she did after receiving criticism after her weight loss:
“I was body positive then and I’m body positive now.
But it’s not my job to validate how people feel about their bodies.
And I feel bad that, you know, it’s made anyone feel horrible about themselves. But that’s not my job.”
“I’m trying to sort my own life out. I can’t add another worry.”
And it’s a reminder that you will never please everyone…
When she was overweight, she received criticism..
When she lost weight, she received criticism…
It reminded me of what I spoke about yesterday regarding ‘people pleasing’ and the questions of:
“Am I doing this for me or am I trying to people please?”
^^ super powerful question because what’s the point in pleasing others if you are not happy? In fact, if you are not happy, it will probably be harder to please others…
So use this as a reminder to put yourself first.
Because I see so many people (including me)
Not do the things they say they are committed to doing (and end up beating themselves up for it).
^^^ which is exhausting…
But if you just put people pleasing aside for one moment…
And ask the question:
“What are you committed to right now in this moment?”
This will tell you what you really are valuing right now.
Take my bedtime routine.
I keep saying ‘I need to get up early so I get more done, have more energy, be less ratty to be around, better Dad, better husband” Etc…
But if I look at my behaviours the night before at 1030pm when I said I need to be in bed by 10pm …
And ask that question of ‘What am I committed to right now in this moment?’
When I am scrolling Facebook, watching videos of cats playing pianos and who knows what haha
This is telling me that I am not committed to being a better Dad, husband and being more productive right now…
And just by asking this questions,
It doesn’t fix it all..
But it makes me more conscious and mindful of how my behaviours AKA what I choose to do.
Impact my results and how I feel tomorrow.
You see, it’s not about never making mistakes.
It’s not about being perfect….
“Are you going to use this situation to get 1% better or use this situation to beat yourself up?”
Your answer will dictate your actions and your actions will dictate your results..