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It’s different for me!

One of the things that many ladies who work with me say at the start of their fitness and toning up journey is that “it’s easier for others than me”…

And I do get this. 

You have your own struggles. 



Snacks everywhere 

Fussy eaters at home and the thought of cooking different meals 

It’s no surprise that by the end of the day, the last thing on your mind is cooking a healthy dinner and doing some exercise. 

But something this reminds me of is when I was a kid at Tae Kwon Do.

we used to have this mantra:


And – of course – being only 12 at the time, I had no clue what this meant anyway. 

But what I’ve found to be true NOW after coaching hundreds of ladies is that there’s a BIG step between ‘believe’ and ‘achieve’…


Because here’s the thing:

Everyone has self belief. 

Everyone has confidence. 

Whether they exercise every day, once a week or haven’t exercises in years. 

Whether they define themselves as the ‘fat one’ in their friendship group or whether they’re the sporty one doing all the classes at the gym. 

Everyone has confidence. 

The difference?

The THOUGHTS inbetween your ears you CHOOSE to believe  which will – eventually – determine what you do

^^^ whether you eat the rest of the biscuits and put off doing what you said you would do to look and feel how you’d like…OR make a commitment to consistently just getting better and winning each day…even if it’s by focussing on getting 1% better today!

It’s probably why I was always too shy and embarrassed to teach Taw Kwon Do.

I always looked at other instructors and thought they were better than me.

The reality?

They started before me! That’s it.

And it’s the same when you look at others and wonder:

“I could never do that”

Or say

“I’m not fit enough”

The difference?

They just started before you…

Because  before an action…is a feeling.

 Which is a thought that you’ve put some meaning to. 

This could be courage. Confidence. OR a lack of confidence. ‘I have no willpower’. “I have no motivation’…

So, what if I told you that it’s not a lack of confidence? It’s not a lack of willpower? But actually the thoughts you CHOOSE to believe?

Can I challenge you just for today to slow down and challenge your thoughts? Notice what you are CHOOSING to believe? 

And – if you’re really ready for a challenge – I challenge you to take action WITHOUT having self-belief or confidence that you can do it? 

After all, no one knows the future, so who knows what you might achieve if you CHOOSE to notice the thoughts that are NOT yours and realise that you have a choice in what you believe, how you respond and what you do?

You might just surprise yourself 

Like Judith said:

“Everything is great thanks. I’m really pleased with my weightloss: 7 kg, that’s more than a stone. I would never have thought that I would loose that much in the time I’ve been doing the programme. “

Because when keep you going 

And taking action,

Eventually ….eventually 

You might just surprise yourself.

After all 

Challenges are there to help you get better.

As let’s face it

Challenges will pop up anyway .

Chances are, they’ll be challenges you don’t want..

So why not face the challenges that – at least – get you to where you want to go?

Apply this is to any challenge:


Getting to exercise?

Fitting it in?

Planning meals and finding the time?

Whatever it is.

There IS an alternative…

And you probably won’t like it.

If you do?

Then that’s ok.

If not?

Our 28 Day Kickstart Programme for ladies 40+ in Marlborough, Devizes and Burbage might be for you.

We start w/c 29th February (flexible start date)

Message me  with “Devizes”, “Marlborough” or “Burbage” and I’ll get you the details

Matt “different?” Fruci