Ever fall into that all or nothing / “F it” mindset?
Try this simple task:
Grab a pen and paper
Or your notepad on a phone…
And write down a limiting / stressful ‘thought’ or ‘belief’
that you have
Thought / belief = e.g. I have just eaten bread and had some biscuits, I may as well give up today and start tomorrow
Then answer the following
1. How do you feel when you believe this thought?
E.g. I feel rubbish. I am a failure, might as well write today off as a failure.
2. How do you react and what happens when you believe this thought?
E.g. I finish the packet of biscuits. Might as well just mess up the day
2a. Does this thought / belief bring you peace or stress?
2b. Is it 100% true? (If yes, how do you know?)
E.g. not 100%…
3. Who would you be without this thought? What would be different? What would you do if the opposite was true.
E.g. the opposite would be : I may as well NOT give up.
If I believed I may as well not give up, I would not finish the biscuits, call myself lazy, think I have failed. I would do my exercise session. I would not beat myself up. I would spend my energy on what I can control .
Powerful exercise, right?
And this is the first part of thinking differently.
I talk through this here: